Let’s talk about one aspect of banking that most people like to avoid – personal responsibility.
I know I know. I’ve only done two blog posts and both of them have had very unlikeable words in them; but it’s something we need to know about in our finances.
As an employee of America First I can tell you with absolute certainty that we have your best financial goals at heart. It is our intention to manage your funds in such a way that you feel they are safe and secure, and that they’re able to grow. But we can only do so much for you.
I take loan applications for people every single day. I have no emotional or personal long-term investment in these loans. It’s my job to look at the applications as fairly and objectively as possible and then make a decision that is both in our members’ best interest and in the best interest of the credit union. But I only have a few pieces of the puzzle when it comes to your finances.
I’m not the person who has to live on your budget. I don’t know what your preconceived ideas are about loan payments or savings and long-term financial goals. I don’t know and neither does anyone else in the credit union. We do our best with what we have, but it ultimately comes down to you.
Here’s a good example for you. On any given day, I would say we have between five and ten people who come in to the tellers to ask about having some sort of fee rebated. I know from personal experience how frustrating and annoying it is to have my account go negative and then to have a fee added on top of it. But, I also understand that those were the conditions I agreed to when I opened my account.
I’m an adult and I want to be treated as such. But in order to earn that treatment I have to act like an adult. If I want America First to hold up their end of our account agreement, then I have to be willing to do the same. It’s simple ethics and it applies all across the financial board.
If I take out a loan for a car and total it, it’s my responsibility to take care of the loan. If the insurance company isn’t going to pay off the full amount of the loan, then it’s unfair and immature of me to expect my financial institution to just forget that I owe them the rest of the balance. I may not like having to continue to pay on a loan for a car I no longer have. In fact, I can guarantee I would not like having to continue to pay on that loan. But, it doesn’t mean I’m not responsible to do so.
Now, I understand it’s a default reaction. There are numerous factors and reasons for why we function the way we do, but it’s safe to say that most of us will have the same reaction to bad news. We first will try to defend our own actions and then we will try to defer responsibility to someone else. It’s not wrong to initially react this way, but it is wrong for us to continue along that same train of thought and expect someone else to take the fall for our poor decisions. Whether we expect another individual or a business to take the fall is irrelevant. The hard truth is that we need to accept responsibility for our own actions and the consequences they lead to.
It sucks. But it only sucks for a little while. After we get more and more practiced at accepting responsibility for our lives and defer less and less to our parents, financial institutions or any other entity to babysit us and protect us from our bad decisions, we become more and more self empowered. With the weight of accepting our mistakes, we get the power of being able to earn and accept our successes. And just like anything else worth doing, it’s going to take a lot of work and self discipline, but pay off handily in the end.